I used to be a serious advocate of self development. I had gotten into self development around the age of 12, but didn’t start gaining serious traction until mid 2015. I don’t think it’s all the podcasts and books I’ve read that have primarily aided in my development, but through living life itself.
The Problem With Self Development
The issue with self development is that it initiates an endless rabbit hole of dissatisfaction. Once you’re done with one goal, your mind doesn’t give you much time until you feel the dissatisfaction set in.
A good example would be men that read books on increasing their “dating game”. Considering you’re already hardwired to copulate with women, this is pointless. The issue is that you need to get out of your head, and into your balls
The human being is hardwired to grow no matter where they are. Life will deliver experiences that allow you to grow. It has been my personal experience that life itself has delivered virtually all of my personal growth; not a book, podcast, or seminar.
Doing Only What Is Needed
I have personally found that my quality of life has gone up from only doing what is needed. People that have these ridiculously large dreams and aspirations have been brainwashed and are missing the point of life. As I discussed in my previous article, life is about the small things that are real to you.
Compared in unison with the rest of the human timeline, everyone in western society would be considered rich. The problem is that most of us have already reached material comfort, so our brain tells us to chase meaningless goals because that’s how we’re hardwired to survive.
Why work more than what is needed? If you have food, shelter and clothes on your back you’ve already beaten the game. This grants more time to spend your time on things that truly matter to you. Just as I’ve found more freedom in going my own way, you may as well.